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My Hysterectomy

Posted by Admin on May 29, 2009

letter to Dr.Farhat Hashmi from Sana Dossal

Dear Dr Farhat,

Alhamdulilllah by the grace of Allah I have come home now after a hysterectomy and am recuperating.After having an ultrasound in March, I was told I had a huge fibroid in my uterus and there was no other way but to have a hysterectomy since the mass was pressing on my bladder, I had swollen feet and there were possibilities that it could eventually lead to other complications.I did istikhara and left it up to Allah. There is a beautiful dua that we had been taught to us on the Khalwa (retreat).

“Allahumma innee laa ureedu an ureeda illah ma tureed.”

Oh Allah, indeed I do not will to will except that which You Will.

Alhamdulillah it was tawakkaltu al Allah and I left it up to Allah.
My appointment with the doctor on the 2nd of April led to the finalization of my surgery date for Wednesday the 8th. I was to “check in” at the Agha Khan Hospital on Tuesday the 7th so that that they could prepare me for surgery which was to take place the next day.

Alhamdulillah I completed all the outstanding work with Rakshanda and Waqar sahab at 2/A by Tuesday afternoon and sorted out all my commitments that would need to be put on hold for the next month. It seemed that the days were too short leading up to my surgery. I had been told that I would need time to convalesce for at least two to six weeks, after the surgery and I would need to be watchful and vigilant for eight weeks, not climbing stairs, driving lifting etc. So it was quite hectic to wrap up everything that I could physically get done before I went to the hospital.

Mummy insisted on staying with me during the time I was there. There was to be no “ifs” and “buts” about it! By the time I reached the hospital, weighed,  given my hospital gown and pyjamas and “shown my room” it was about six in the evening. It was a beautiful evening and a beautiful room.

From my window I could see the most beautiful date palms, and during salah times, the sound of the muezzin was crystal clear as was the jamaat. I was truly blessed. Mummy Amena and I said our prayers in our own Jamaat for Maghrib, and Ishaa. When Mummy and I were up for tahajjud, that night,  Alhamdulillah it was Allah’s will that while I  was reciting the tenth para at the time He chose that I should recite in my Salah, the Ayat, “la Tahzan innallaha ma’ana ……” I kept reciting the words over and over again, and Allah was reaffirming to me that all would be well and there would Insha Allah be sakeenah.

The feeling that Allah was talking to me and comforting me was immense at that moment. Those words remained with me as I lay in the pre operation room waiting for the doctors and nurses to wheel me in. I was overwhelmed by the feeling of closeness to Allah and my eyes welled up uncontrollably. If anyone was to notice my face at that point would have probably thought that I was scared and sorry for myself. But my heart and my soul felt a certain closeness to Allah in those moments that I had never felt before. Feelings of love and thankfulness abounded and I felt so rich in every way imaginable.  A replay of events and conversations and people were just passing randomly through my mind at their own will and throughout Allah was with me in those moments, I felt it, and I knew it. How fortunate I was.  I was grateful and thankful that all that I could remember saying continuously was Alhamdulillah.

I was wheeled in for surgery at 1:00. By the time I was conscious and able to ask the time again it was 5:00 in the evening. I was drowsy and disoriented and kept falling in and out of sleep. How I reached my room or how I made it there I only have a brief  recollection of being told to slowly move my self sideways on to the  bed in the room  that  lay parallel to the one I had been wheeled in on. I had been told before the surgery that I would have a “pump” with non narcotic pain killers that I could press at ten minute intervals. In my mind I had thought that I was being given a drip of pain killers and the pump was there for me if I required an extra dose. Being quite comfortable I had not used the pump and with the grace of Allah the amount that I required was barely negligible, 6 pumps in the entire twenty four hours. I was later told that there had been no pain killers and the relief was only when I would press the pump. SubhanAllah! Whenever I felt any discomfort, or when I would turn on my side, I would say, Rabbi yassir walaa tuassir wa tammim bil khair.

These words brought strength and comfort to me and the pain or anxiety that I would be feeling would completely dissipate and I would be calm once more.
My recuperation was steady, but I had lost a lot of blood. I had been fortunate in that my doctor had worked hard to save my ovaries which were the reason my surgery had taken longer than usual.  I had to have two iron drips to stabilize my hemoglobin which had gone down to seven.
Throughout my time at the hospital I was taken good care of, the nurses were always smiling, and there for me whenever I needed them. The first day was the most difficult, but to me it seemed that I was not in as much pain as I had thought I would have been. Mummy kept asking me, “Are you in pain?” to which with all honesty I would reply, “Not really”.

While I slept, mummy would read the Quran, or say her prayers. Waking in and out of my drowsiness, I could see my brothers, my husband, my daughter, my sister, my relatives, I realized how fortunate I was that Allah had blessed me with so many loved ones who were concerned for my health and well being, and most of all my parents’ presence, love and duas. I could not thank Allah enough, for all His blessings in every way possible.
Before going in for surgery I had been worried about my hya. The hospital gown and pyjamas were comfortable and decent and I was covered with a sheet as well, all the way to the pre operation room, where they covered my hair with a cap and I had to return my chadar with which I had draped my hair and face. I returned my chadar to the nurse once they covered my hair with a cap and I covered my face with the sheet that covered my body. The sheet was soon replaced with the oxygen mask on my face. After the surgery, when I returned to my room I was still dressed in the very comfortable white gown and pyjamas and a sheet. It was covering and at no time did I feel exposed in anyway. It was Allah’s grace on me that He looked after my hya. Alhamdulillah.

I was told by my doctor that I could leave on Saturday but my family insisted that I stay two more days and leave on Monday instead. Amena spent the night with me on Saturday night; once mummy was sure that I was better and more able. Amena left in the morning and I spent most of Sunday on my own and Sunday night as well. I had wanted to hear the tafseer of Surah Sajdah and I really want to learn this surah by heart. May Allah give me the ability to do so, ameen. On our retreat we had been reminded about the importance of surah Sajdah, and that Rasul Allah (saw) never went to sleep unless he had recited it. The opportunity was perfect. I had saved the Canada tafseer on my Ipod which I had packed to take with me to the hospital along with my duas and Quran. I was fortunate enough to listen to the entire tafseer of the surah in my room. There was no disturbance except when the nurses would check in on me. And it was so serene and quiet, except for the sound of the azaan and the occasional pigeons that would coo peeping in through the low window sill. I could hear the baby beds being moved outside in the corridor but I was blessed with time and peace. It was truly moving hearing the meanings the elaboration of the Ayaat and then the qiraat made my heart and soul soar with understanding and I felt so close to Allah. The word Dhukkiru really touched me because this year has been an awakening from Allah for me. And really there are so many things that I had forgotten that resurfaced with such clarity. May Allah reward you for enabling me to understand the words of the Quran. There is no feeling or pleasure that can match the feeling of a soaring soul. May Allah open vistas to you, may He always bless you with the ability to open the treasures of this book and share your in depth knowledge with others, ameen. May all who hear it, submit to the One. Truly Allah is the Greatest. Allahu Akbar.

Love, hugs and duas to you.
As always inspired and grateful,
Sana

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Ramadan Dora e Quran Karachi

Posted by Admin on August 30, 2008

Dora e Quran

Brief Explanation of the entire Quran in Urdu language for ladies have started at the following locations in Karachi.

.D.H.A

By Ruby Tariq

Time: 10:00 – 12:00

Venu: Defence Central Library, Main Sunset Boulevard

Defence Phase II Extension,Karachi.

Tel: 021-4313273-4, 4528547-8, 0300-8944861.

RIBATUL ULOOM

Time: 10:00 - 12:30
Venue: Ribat ul uloom Islamia Library, Plot # 268
Alamgir Road, Karachi No. 5.
Tel: 021-8277018, 0321-2040347.

NORTH NAZIMABAD

Time: 10:00 – 12:00

Venue: 102-F, Block B, Next to Generation School.

North Nazimabad, Karachi.

021-6676674.

AISHA MANZIL

Time:10:00 – 12:30

Venue: D-73, Block 5, Tahir Villa, Near Aisha Manzil,

Federal B Area, Karachi.

021-6046241, 021-6800454.

TARIQ ROAD

Time: 10:00 – 12:30

Al Huda Tariq Road Branch,

Near Sindh Lab, Tariq Road, Karachi.

021-4558235.

FEDERAL B AREA

Time: 9:00 – 12:00

Venue: 11-B/2, Kakabawany Centre, Next to Usman Memorial Hospital,

Hussain Abad Chowrangi, F.B. Area Karachi.

021-6376601

GULSHAN E IQBAL

Time: 10:30 – 12:30

Venue: E80/1, Block 7, Bahria Foundation College,

Abulhasan Isphani Road,Gulshan e Iqbal,Karachi.

021-4984272, 0300-2206023

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How To Guard Your Husband’s Honor As Allah Has Commanded

Posted by Admin on July 26, 2008

By Sadaf Farooqi

Traditionally, occupations such as cooking, sewing, fashion designing and interior decorating were considered the exclusive terrain of women. Today, however, they have all witnessed incursions by men, to some extent. One domain, though, still remains predominantly women’s-only, and that is home-making. This is because it is woman’s innate nature to be the master of her home. As manager, guard and coordinator, she happily does the household chores and caters to her family’s needs, while the husband, more often than not the chief breadwinner, remains absent throughout the day at work.

Allah has acknowledged this aspect of the functional family unit, by instructing women to be “guards” of their husband’s property and honour in the latter’s absence:

Therefore, the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to the husband), and guard in (the husband’s) absence what Allah would have them guard…

[Qur’an – Surah Al-Nisaa: 34]

Guarding “what Allah would have them guard” implies that a Muslim wife should guard:

  • Her husband’s property (house, money, belongings, and anything which he leaves behind),
  • Her own modesty and chastity, and finally,
  • Her husband’s honour and reputation.

Guarding her husband’s honour would mean not mentioning him, his character, or his deeds to any third person in a derogatory or defaming manner – ever. Although the world generally frowns upon an untidy home in disarray, or a cheating wife flirting with other men, this aspect of a wife’s loyalty – her maintaining her husband’s honour behind his back – is something even many “good” wives fail to accomplish. Women generally speak well of their husbands to people they are not close to. It’s the close relatives and friends, however, who unwittingly cause slips.

  1. Be careful of unintentional slips in conversations with other women:

    “The plumber came, and I had to rush back home to supervise his work, as [my husband] is totally useless; on Saturdays, he lies in bed all day and does absolutely nothing…”
    “My husband snores so loudly, it could scare anyone who hears him in the middle of the night.”
    “He offers to cook, but his dishes turn out horrible, so I’d rather not eat what he makes…”
    “He never takes me shopping; he’s always involved in his work.”
    During the gush of such ‘girly’ conversations, their husbands’ potent faults are unintentionally revealed. The listeners/on-lookers chuckle knowingly, nodding their heads in compassionate comprehension. What they enjoy is the pleasure of knowing that this supposedly “happy” and perfect Muslim couple too, have the usual marital differences; that even seemingly “righteous” couples cannot always live in harmony. And last but not least, it gives them fodder for gossip.
    Even if there is no major argument between the couple, how often we see Muslim women casually commenting to each other about their husband’s shortcomings. Whether on the phone, or during a visit, it is common to hear them complaining about their husbands to their mother, sister, cousin, or best friend. Even if they discuss their husband lovingly, some hidden aspect of the comment, or merely the tone of voice, sometimes carries disdain or derision.

  2. Remember that mentioning your husband’s weaknesses might initiate gossip about you:

    The gossip-mongers in any social circle dwell on the “juicy” tidbits regarding other couples’ marital discord, for which they fish around in conversation and hearsay. We have all heard the stories about the in-law hovering outside the bedroom door while the husband and wife argued, or the “sincere” friend giving a frustrated wife her shoulder to cry on, only to discuss the account with her other friends later.

  3. Remember that protecting the husband’s honor is one of Allah’s commands for a Muslim wife:

    What Muslim women should be wise enough to understand is that, by revealing their husband’s faults to anyone else, they are disobeying Allah and thus putting themselves at risk of His wrath. They alone, are to lose out by this action.
    Even though Islam allows a woman to seek help for major problems in her marriage, it enjoins her to bear all trivial marital problems with patience and discretion.
    A woman does not get as much respect anywhere in the world as she does in her husband’s home: there, she’s the queen of her throne, elegant and ethereal. When she defames her husband in any way to a third person, she lowers herself from this high pedestal.
    She gives people a chance to mock her and discuss her with others, becoming the topic of coffee-table repartee.

  4. Beware of the concern of even your biological mothers and sisters – it can sometimes be the cause of your marital troubles:

    Narrated by Ibn Abbas, Prophet Muhammad [Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him] said:
    The best woman (wife) is the one who, when you look at her she pleases you, when you command her she obeys you, and when you are not in her presence, she safeguards herself and your belongings.”
    [Ibn Majah 1861]
    Muslim women should be careful about this matter even with their biological sisters and mothers. At the end of the day, no one wants a woman to come and live with them if she gets divorced or estranged from her husband. They, however, do enjoy listening to her incessantly complain of the problems in her husband’s home: how low the finances are, how untidy her husband is, how much he eats, or how he neglects her rights. They might throw bygone incidents in her face even months after she has moved on and forgotten them, so that she starts brimming with indignation all over again, at their mention.
    Muslim women should try not to fall prey to the instigations of such “well-wishing” people, who laugh when she mocks her husband, who relish her marital dissensions, who thrive on getting to know other women’s domestic troubles. They are devils in disguise, preying on the tranquility of others’ homes, seeking juicy coffee-party gossip. Muslim women should beware of disobeying Allah in this regard.

  5. Make only righteous, Allah-fearing woman your close confidantes and ‘shoulders to cry on’:

    Even if you have a fight with your husband and you feel you must mention it to someone to feel better, do it with someone who has high taqwa [consciousness of Allah], who will never divulge your story to anyone else. Even your own mother might mention it to her sister, who might tell her daughter, and in this way, the whole family might be discussing your household troubles and commenting about them, weeks or months after the whole thing has blown over.

Remember that in every command of Allah lies a potent hikmah, a hidden wisdom that is beneficial for you. He loves you seventy times more than your well-wishing mother. Run to Him – in salah [regular Islamic prayer], dua [praying to Him], dhikr [His remembrance by the tongue and heart], and istighfar [seeking His forgiveness for sins] – whenever you have a bone to pick with your husband. For the solution and the solace after the storm, trust in Allah. If you keep your duty to Him, He will never relinquish you – rather, He will fill your home with unbridled peace, harmony and tranquility.

This article was first published on the website howtodothings.com.

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Finding Freedom in Fundamentals

Posted by Admin on February 27, 2008

Woodrow Wilson Women’s Studies Fellow examines transnational Islamic women’s academy

They gather in local classrooms and in each other’s homes; in rural villages and in urban centers; around kitchen tables and computer screens; in Karachi, Toronto, and Tempe. Many, though lifelong Muslims, are reading tafsir (exegesis) of the Qur’an for the first time to understand what it actually says about everything from hygiene to civil society. And many students of the Al-Huda Academy for Women, according to khanum Shaikh (WS ’07), find the experience freeing.

“There’s an incredible enthusiasm and excitement, a transformation among [Al-Huda’s] members,” says Ms. Shaikh, a doctoral candidate in women’s studies at the University of California at Los Angeles. “Many talk about how unaware Pakistani women have historically been of what religion really means in daily life—raising children, being a citizen, forging a relationship with Allah. Al-Huda opens up a wealth of information for people to reformulate their lives, while also providing a space for internal reflection.”

Although women have always been educated in Islam, the Qur’an is in Arabic, which is not Pakistanis’ native language,” Ms. Shaikh says. “Through my traditional Qur’anic education, I could quote sections in Arabic—but not necessarily understand what they say. We learn to rely on interpretations dominated by male scholars.”

Founded in Islamabad in 1994 by Farhat Hashmi, who completed a Ph.D. in Islamic studies at the University of Glasgow, Al-Huda (Arabic for “guidance from Allah”) offers locally hosted religious study groups for women, as well as online resources, recordings, and radio broadcasts in Pakistan. The group’s recently opened school in Ontario has generated controversy among both Muslims and non-Muslims.

Ms. Shaikh’s dissertation examines how Al-Huda engages gender and Islam, how Al-Huda members reconceive their identities, and how Al-Huda’s discourse is interpreted in multicultural North America. Al-Huda gives Pakistani Muslim women an unprecedented opportunity, Ms. Shaikh says, to consider their own values and ethics—“everything from intimate day-to-day matters to larger ways of living in the world, concerns like arrogance, class privilege, disease. One woman said the entire year was magical for her, in terms of coming into a voice and thinking hard about these things.”
But there is much debate about Al-Huda within Pakistan, where Dr. Hashmi is the first woman to attain such prominence as a religious teacher.Many traditional male Islamic scholars call Al-Huda’s approach too liberal, Ms. Shaikh says, while others suggest that Dr. Hashmi’s perspectives are rigid and constricting. Still others question her qualifications to be a religious teacher at all. Meanwhile, Ms. Shaikh adds, Westerners exoticize the Al-Huda approach. “Many articles emphasize Dr. Hashmi’s ‘modern’ methods—the
reporters see a disconnect when she teaches in full abaya and face veil, using a PowerPoint presentation. There shouldn’t be so much dissonance between the image of a fully veiled woman and a laptop.”

o is Al-Huda a feminist phenomenon? “It’s not that easy,” replies Ms. Shaikh, who has taught a UCLA course titled Gender and Religious Fundamentalism. “Through Al-Huda women do learn about their rights in Islam—to inherit, to divorce, and so on—and many had no idea they had these rights. “But I wouldn’t say that the goals of Al-Huda’s leaders are the same as those of feminists. A lot of Al-Huda members distance themselves from
feminism, just as many feminists see a vast gulf between themselves and the gendered religiosity that Al-Huda represents. Exploring that gap is part of my research.”

Source:

2007,Woodrow Wilson National Fellowship Foundation, Newsletter Woodrow Wilson in Focus, pg. 6.[Available from:here]

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Women Scholars of Hadith (Sayings of Prophet Muhammad saw)

Posted by Admin on February 2, 2008

by Dr.Muhammad Zubayr Siddiqi

History records few scholarly enterprises, at least before modern times, in which women have played an important and active role side by side with men. The science of hadith forms an outstanding exception in this respect. Islam, as a religion which (unlike Christianity) refused to attribute gender to the Godhead,1 and never appointed a male priestly elite to serve as an intermediary between creature and Creator, started life with the assurance that while men and women are equipped by nature for complementary rather than identical roles, no spiritual superiority inheres in the masculine principle.2 As a result, the Muslim community was happy to entrust matters of equal worth in God’s sight. Only this can explain why, uniquely among the classical Western religions, Islam produced a large number of outstanding female scholars, on whose testimony and sound judgment much of the edifice of Islam depends.

Since Islam’s earliest days, women had been taking a prominent part in the preservation and cultivation of hadith, and this function continued down the centuries. At every period in Muslim history, there lived numerous eminent women-traditionists, treated by their brethren with reverence and respect. Biographical notices on very large numbers of them are to be found in the biographical dictionaries.

During the lifetime of the Prophet, many women had been not only the instance for the evolution of many traditions, but had also been their transmitters to their sisters and brethren in faith.3 After the Prophet’s death, many women Companions, particularly his wives, were looked upon as vital custodians of knowledge, and were approached for instruction by the other Companions, to whom they readily dispensed the rich store which they had gathered in the Prophet’s company. The names of Hafsa, Umm Habiba, Maymuna, Umm Salama, and A’isha, are familiar to every student of hadith as being among its earliest and most distinguished transmitters.4 In particular, A’isha is one of the most important figures in the whole history of hadith literature – not only as one of the earliest reporters of the largest number of hadith, but also as one of their most careful interpreters.

In the period of the Successors, too, women held important positions as traditionists. Hafsa, the daughter of Ibn Sirin,5 Umm al-Darda the Younger (d.81/700), and ‘Amra bin ‘Abd al-Rahman, are only a few of the key women traditionists of this period. Umm al-Darda’ was held by Iyas ibn Mu’awiya, an important traditionist….

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